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Don’t Forget

I posted this last week but it’s worth repeating.

Recently I came across pictures from Mother’s Day 2013.  IMG_1582My husband (Marcus) arranged for someone to capture the moment as he and our 8 month old son Marc presented me with a bouquet of flowers following the Mother’s Day program at church.  I was the morning speaker and my Pastor (Rev. Dr. Ronnie E. Brailsford, Sr.) came to give remarks as he normally does but this time he called Marcus to the pulpit for a special presentation. I was taken aback as Marcus not only publicly displayed his affection but also spoke briefly about all of the challenges we endured.  It is very difficult to surprise me, but he was able to pull it off with the help of great friends.  He reminded me that every time I endured a loss and felt pain so did he, and when I had moments where I was mad at God, so was he and when I was at a loss for words oftentimes so was he.  However, we never experienced our lowest moments at the same time.  Therefore we were there to comfort one another in our time of greatest need.  Then God reminded me that although we had Marc we must never forget our journey and that it was our assignment to help others.  Therefore when people wonder why do I write about infertility when I have three children it’s because I will never forget.

I will never forget the years and the tears to Marc, Caleb and Kyle.

I will never forget the heartache and they pain, fighting back the tears ( for 3 years) every month when Aunt Flow came to visit.

I will never forget the church members and family members who said things like, “what are you waiting on, you are going to be too old soon, the bible says be fruitful and multiply.” Little did they know Icould have experienced a miscarriage two weeks earlier.

I will never forget the dagger to my heart when I heard the words “no heartbeat.”

I will never forget waking up one Saturday morning to volunteer and give the opening prayer at a Mother/Daughter relationship conference and all I see is blood in the toilet.

I will never forget rushing to the hospital on a separate occasion with  intense cramps praying all the way with my husband that we were not experiencing a miscarriage, only to see blood dripping from the cot as we waited in the hallway after several hours because there was no bed available in the emergency room.

I will never forget having to call a friend to drive me to an urgent care facility because my husband was out of town and hear a doctor say, “oh you are probably having a miscarriage, the pain will pass soon.” And he sent me home without a bit of remorse, words of comfort or care.

I will never forget.  I don’t care if I birth 10 children and adopt 10 more those three angles will always be apart of me.  I will always hold a special place in my heart for those who desire to be parents. I will always lend an ear and be the voice of reason for anyone who needs me. I will always try to persuade others to be sensitive to the topic of childbirth because you don’t know what a person is going through.

I urge you also don’t forget!

Don’t forget to love your neighbor as you love yourself.

Don’t forget to do unto others as you will have them do unto you.

Don’t forget to count your blessings there is someone who wants to be in your shoes.

Finally, don’t forget the bridge that  brought you over. Reach back and help someone else.  Don’t allow pride and arrogance to over-take you.

Don’ Forget- I Love You!

Until next time,

Schrendria

 

 

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Persevere

“Don’t Quit”!  I grew up hearing this poem all the time as a child.  My mom recited this poem frequently at various church programs and instilled it in all her children as we were all athletes and involved in various extra-curricula activities.   I guess this is what made me have such tenacity as an adult.  Even when experiencing horrific pain in my adult life I could not quit. There were times I thought I should have quit, but I could not!!!

  • After trying for over three years to conceive a child I should have quit.
  • After having the first miscarriage I should have quit.
  • After the second miscarriage I should have quit.
  • After having seven fibroids removed from my uterus ranging from the size of a pebble to the size of a cantaloupe, I should have quit.
  • After having the third miscarriage at 20 weeks, I should have quit.

I had to persevere and I thank God that I did.

If I gave up I would not have Marc.

If I gave up I would not have Caleb.

If I gave up I would not have Kyle.

I could not quit.  I read and heard stories about others who endured much more than I did on the road to motherhood.  I learned that if you lost one child or if you lost five children the hurt is still the same. WE can’t compare our stories to others, but there has to be something inside of us that tells us to keep pushing.

Maybe you are reading this and you are not interested in having a baby but have a different situation in which you feel like giving up—- don’t quit.  Find comfort in the words of this song “Can’t Give Up Now”  by Mary Mary.

 

 

There will be mountains that I will have to climb.  
And there will be battles that I will have to fight. 
But victory or defeat
 it’s up to me to decide. 
But how can I expect to win, if I never try.

I just can’t give up now 
I’ve come too far from where I started from
.  Nobody told me the road would be easy. 
And I don’t believe He’s brought me this far to leave me.

Never said there wouldn’t be trials,
never said I wouldn’t fall. Never said that everything would go the way I want it to go
. But when my back is against the wall
 and I feel all hope is gone
. I’ll just lift my head up to the sky and say help me to be strong.

I just can’t give up now
. Come too far from where I started from. 
Nobody told me the road would be easy. 
And I don’t believe He’s brought me this far to leave me.

 

Until Next Time,

Keep Pressing!

Schrendria

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No Excuses

Earlier this week I saw a news story that shook me to my core.  A mother and father were arrested for not feeding their two- month-old baby for five days.  Deplorable!!! I fought back the tears while watching this 2-minute segment and thought of my own children.  Imagine the crying that took place and the pain felt by that precious child.  My twins are almost 2 months old and they have a cry that is out of this world signifying that they are ready to be fed.  The hunger cry is a very piercing sound unlike any other cry. As a mother I can’t get to them fast enough to provide nourishment.  Thus, it is hard for me to believe that parents can sit in a house and listen to a child cry because the child is hungry and do nothing about it.

There are no excuses for not feeding a child. I’ve tried to put myself in the parents’ shoes and think of various scenarios as to why they did not feed the child, but there are just no excuses.

  • They could have reached out to governmental agencies that provide support for women and children.
  • The couple could have visited a food bank.
  • The couple could have talked with a social worker at the hospital where the baby was born and asked for help.
  • What about family and friends, could the couple not reach out to them on behalf of the baby?
  • I wonder did the mother try nursing the child.
  • Did the parents eat in the past five days?

There are no excuses.  Nothing explains the parents’ behavior.

This story infuriates me because there are millions of people in the United States alone who desire to become parents.  There are some like myself who are parents but it did not come easy.  And this couple was given the gift of parenthood and has abused it.  There are many who would have taken this baby into their homes and loved him unconditionally if the parents did not want to assume the responsibility.  I would love to hear the parents’ side of the story. I’m seeking to understand their mindset.

Thankfully the baby is okay and is in protective custody.  You can read more about this story here. 

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Television Show

As a teen-ager I was very intrigued by the Oprah Winfrey Show.  I recall writing a letter to Oprah asking her to come and speak at my high school graduation.  Prior to the launch of the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) I submitted a show idea and my video was on the OWN website as many voted for me to host a show on Oprah’s network.  Although I never heard a response from the talk show queen I always held the desire to host a show close to my heart.  Then one day when I wasn’t thinking about a talk show the opportunity presented itself.

Ladies and Gentlemen: I am pleased to announce that I will host a weekly talk show beginning this fall!!!!!!

So you ask what’s the show concept?   Its about health, family and relationships. Its about our struggles as well as our successes. It will show us how to turn our  pain into our purpose. Its about life. Its about you! A talk show for the entire family.

The show will air every Sunday at 9:00 am on Bounce TV WIS-TV digital channel 10.3 and Time Warner Cable Channel 122, beginning September 7, 2014.

If you are not in the Midlands of South Carolina don’t worry, we will also post each show on our You Tube Channel so make sure you subscribe.

Join in the excitement!!! Beginning today we will launch a “show name” contest.  Yes, that’s right.  Contact me via this blog, Facebook, Twitter or Instagram and let me know what you think we should name the show.  The contest will end July 27th and winner announced August 3rd.  The winner will be mentioned on the first episode of the show.

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The Struggle is Real

Today I urge you to listen to this heartfelt radio segment where four women share their journey to motherhood.  A special thanks to Stacey Sherrell the host of Friday at Five on WGCV 620 am a Glory Communications Station. Also thanks to the women who had the courage to share their story.  I believe that many will be blessed by this segment.

 

 

Sincerely,

Schrendria

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Faith

FAITH-the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1).  I recall learning this definition as a child and it seemed so simple. I also recall the infamous illustration of a mustard seed and thought “piece of cake.” All I need is faith the size of a mustard seed (which is really small) and I’m set for life in the faith department.

Little did I know that as an adult my faith would be challenged time, after time, after time, in an area that seemed so SIMPLE. A husband and wife come together and a child is born right. WRONG!!

Although we now have three beautiful children the faith walk is not over.  Everyday we all must walk by faith (parents and non parents).  If you are believing God for a child take it from me-you never know how long it will take to have a child/ren.  You don’t know what you will have to go through to get them here.  You don’t know what conditions they will have once they get here. You don’t know what they will develop along the way after they are here.  Are you ready?  Are you ready for yet another faith walk?  Begin praying, fasting and believing now for the best possible outcome.  I understand why many parents pray for their children everyday before they leave the home.  I understand why parents pray for their children every night before they go to sleep.  We never know what tomorrow holds.  Thus, I’m glad I know who holds tomorrow.  I’m praying for you.  I’m praying for your situation. I’m praying for your children. Please do the same for me and mine.  And remember, without FAITH it is impossible to please God.

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Finding Support During Loss

Sometimes we do not get to choose our paths but a path is chosen for us.  I appreciate the support and encouragement extended to me as many of you learn more about our story. Please know that I am simply fulfilling the call placed upon me by sharing with others.

Please check out the video below and join the movement. There are so many things you can do to help: you can pray, become more sensitive in your conversations, help us spread the word about this work and invite us to come and speak to your group or congregation.  I look forward to hearing from you.

http://www.wltx.com/videos/news/local/2014/05/22/9459517/

 

 

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Almost Here

I can’t believe it.  Our little guys are almost here.  On Tuesday, June 3rd, I will be 37 weeks pregnant with twin boys.  I can hardly wait to meet them-Caleb and Kyle.  As happy as I am that they are almost here, I also have to admit I’m a bit nervous.  See it’s hard to believe that I will have a total of three boys after having three miscarriages.  This has been a very difficult journey not because of the physical toll of carry twins, but because of the mental reminder of my past.  Everyday I should wake up excited to be carrying twins, but that is not the case.  I wake up praying that there are still two heart beats. I keep cold water by my bedside so I can constantly feel the kicks every time I take a sip.  I hold my breath and say a prayer every time I get an ultrasound.  You may be saying hey what is wrong with being prayerful—-Nothing.  However 90% of my actions stem from the fear of my past.     But every day I am more hopeful.  I am constantly quoting the scripture, “I believe, Lord help my unbelief” Mark 9:24.  The closer we get to a full term pregnancy the happier I am.  I believe that soon and very soon I will be writing a post about my happy, healthy baby boys Caleb and Kyle.  Pray for me on this journey and I will do the same for you.

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Testimony

“As I look back over my life and I think things over.  I can truly say that I’ve been blessed. I’ve got a testimony.”  These popular song lyrics by Rev. Clay Evans were brought to mind this week as I spent time sharing the Baby Please! movement with thousands.  I’m honored to have appeared on a local television news show called Friends at Five with my friend Darci Strickland and  on a local radio show called Friday at Five with my friend Stacey Sherrell.  Both shows gave me an opportunity to reflect on my story and realize why I must continue this journey.  Three friends from the Baby Please ! movement joined me on the radio show and I was in tears as I heard their stories again.  As one of the ladies stated there are no coincidences just divine connections.  I am so glad that you have connected with this blog.  It is my prayer that others will find hope and restoration through these stories.  “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony. . . . .” Revelation 12:11

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Our Story

Once Upon a Time ……… and  Happily Ever After; are phrases that generally make up a good story. If we slow down from the busyness of life we will notice that everyone has a story.  Sometimes our stories end with Happily Ever After and sometimes it’s To Be Continued.  What’s your story? Have you ever thought about how your story may help someone else?   Consider the following: 1.   Don’t be afraid to share your story.  2.  Share your story only when you feel the time is right.  3. Be prepared for ALL feedback as a result of sharing your story.  Everyone may not like your transparency or understand why you are sharing your story.   Here is a small portion of our story.  Be Blessed.

 

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